Wishing You a Few Pleasant Days

Posted on Wednesday 15 September 2010

Just 5 days before my mother passed away — the very day she was told she was almost out of time — a plant arrived.  A lovely chrysanthemum that was about to bloom.

It was flat-out covered with buds… and when Adorable Child brought the plant downstairs to my mother, we all sat out on her brick patio for a couple of hours, trying to guess how many flowers there would be.

We settled on “hundreds”.


The card read, “Wishing you a few pleasant days” — a thought that turned out to be astoundingly appropriate.

Yet she did, in fact, have a few pleasant days left.  And while the day those flowers arrived was a tough one, it was also a day we three spent together with some enjoyment.

Pleasant.  Sometimes, that’s all one can ask for.

It’s taken me several days to be able to express myself in the way I wanted… but making these images with the empty wheelchair helped me enormously.


Time can sometimes be an enemy.   There’s often not nearly enough, and as it passes, so too do our days.

But time can also be a friend — a gentler of difficult emotions.  And so it has proven for me — because although I’ve desperately needed to express my grief through my camera, it wasn’t until yesterday that I was able to do so… or at least to begin.

Raw Emotions

4 Comments for 'Wishing You a Few Pleasant Days'

    September 15, 2010 | 8:33 pm

    These pictures are poignant and lovely. I hope they bring peace. Looks like that chrysanthemum will even more blooms – another picture after it’s fully bloomed?

    September 16, 2010 | 5:33 am

    Hi Bug — Thank you, and yes, this is going to be a spectacular plant. I’ll certainly be shooting it again.


    September 17, 2010 | 9:08 am

    Your post had the power to reduce me to tears this morning. No, let me reword that – it elevated me to tears. First, the chrysanthemums, brimming with life, then the two slightly-of-out-of-focus wheelchairs, then the wheelchair in painfully sharp focus, and finally the fade to black and white with edges merged in eternity. You are an artist.

    Thank you.

    September 20, 2010 | 6:51 am

    Simply beautiful… the words, the pictures, the sentiment. Thinking of you.

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