Archive for September, 2010

Pond Stalking

From almost the first day we arrived here, there’s been an enormous waterbird stalking our pond — no doubt because we have an abundance of these: Or should I say, we had an abundance. Daily visits to the smorgasbord have reduced the supply rather markedly. He’s a Great Blue Heron. And he’s been driving me [...]


I’ve spent much of the last week reflecting. On my mother, on me, on our relationship… The deeper I look, the more clarity I find. However painful it all is.

Wishing You a Few Pleasant Days

Just 5 days before my mother passed away — the very day she was told she was almost out of time — a plant arrived.  A lovely chrysanthemum that was about to bloom. It was flat-out covered with buds… and when Adorable Child brought the plant downstairs to my mother, we all sat out on [...]

Peace at Last

Helen Marie McCabe — aka Goldenrod — aka my mother — passed away very early this morning. I’ll be making arrangements for a memorial service soon.  If you haven’t heard from me directly and wish to be notified and/or attend, it’s because I don’t have access to all my mother’s online contact information.  I hope [...]

This is the End for Me, Isn’t It

One of the most beautiful things about relationships is how different people meet different areas of need for one another. It’s not as if we deliberately pick and choose for such specificity, either;  it just comes together somehow.  And yesterday, this remarkable attribute manifested in a glaring way when my mother asked Dear Husband,  “This [...]